A little about Tim…

I grew up with an alcoholic father and a highly anxious, codependent mother. I learned that being a nice boy, never disagreeing with anyone, and getting people to like me was the way to stay safe, and the purpose of my life. I learned that things like anger and discontent were never to be expressed in any way. I believed that people pleasing and loneliness were just how life was.

I started my recovery at age 42 after finding the 12 step program Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families, and a therapist I connected with. I started to sort out the constant fear, struggles with relationships, disconnection from my emotions, low self-esteem, and suppressed rage that were such a pervasive part of my life I didn’t even recognize them as problems.

When I learned to say “no” and communicate to people who I actually was, to ask for what I needed, and to ever so slowly believe in myself, my life changed so drastically that I chose to go back to school and become a therapist. I revel in helping people who have lived through the hell of emotional suppression and self loathing find purpose, and begin to live the way they want to, instead of the way they “should” or are “supposed to.”